As children we were often ignored or criticized or only spoken to to with a directive. What we needed was a significant person to be a witness to our good times and bad moments. Consequently we are not in touch with our authentic feelings. We are only aware of our fear of and inability to express ourselves.

Having someone to listen is important. To hear what I say is a blessing. When we are struggling to speak our truth that is enough. Going beyond that seeking validation and affirmation is desirable but not essential at this point. I have worked up enough courage to speak my truth and someone heard what I said.

Role-playing in an Empty Chair conversation enables me to speak my truth in a non-threating space. Valuable preparation for the real-time event. Prior to that conversation could be an Empty Chair talk with myself to understand the real -life obstacles which have diminished my ability to speak authentically and articulately with other people.